How Facebook Is Destroying Marriages

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The statistics are mind blowing. Think about it too long and it’s going to make your head hurt. Facebook is now so powerful that it can damage your relationships. I’m not talking about a friend getting mad that you didn’t like their posts or didn’t nudge them enough. No. I’m talking about divorce or the breakdown of a romantic relationship because of Facebook. It sounds stupid and even knowing what I do about it, I still am shaking my head about this.

It all started out normally. I was dating a woman who was really everything I could have hoped for, but I started noticing a strange tension between the two of us. I couldn’t figure out what it was but she was spending more time on her phone and seemed stressed. It was in part because of this stress that I started talking to a new woman more. We knew each other through a friend of a friend, but it was on Facebook that we really started to dig each other. Both of us were in relationships with other people, but it didn’t seem like it could do any harm for us to just flirt with each other over Facebook. We lived in different cities and both of us knew that it was going nowhere.

Except we were wrong. It blew up to huge proportions and started with strange status updates from my girlfriend. I was confused about it at the time, but figured it had to do something with her new job. How wrong I was. She was watching me on Facebook. More than that, her friends were watching me on Facebook. That sounds creepier than it is because while I was mad about it when I first found out, I sat down and thought about it. There’s nothing irrational about people stalking other people on Facebook. If you think about it, that’s pretty much what the site was built up around. Maintain ties with people with minimum effort and stay far too updated about what’s going on in their lives. That’s what Facebook is and everyone kind of stalks everyone on it.

I love Facebook. I’m one of those people who is unashamedly addicted to it. It’s on my phone, I check it on my computer and when I know I meet someone who I want to stay in touch with I ask them for their Facebook instead of their number. Facebook is an invaluable tool for anyone who wants to keep in touch with their friends and can’t find the time. People spread out. It’s what we do and now Facebook has made it possible to stay in touch with those people.

But if you want to cheat or even flirt with someone else who isn’t your significant other? Facebook sucks. If I could underline, bold this, and make it twenty feet tall, I would. Facebook sucks for anything that has to do with keeping quiet because it’s a public site. Everything is public and just there for everyone to see. It’s easy to trace your interactions and because of this, Facebook has become one of the major causes of divorce. I’m not kidding.

According to the Huffington Post, Facebook is the new menace when it comes to being linked with divorce. Maybe we should have seen this coming, but take a moment and just Google “Facebook divorce”. It’s crazy the amount of stuff that comes up when you search it.

Anything else? Nope, nope, nope.

Sorry, Facebook. We can still be friends, but I think I’m going to keep my adulterous lifestyle away from you. The idea of having my private conversations paraded around and misconstrued for a jury in divorce court is more than enough to have me shying away from any more Facebook flirting.


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